When I was having my shower this morning, inspiration struck for a quick blog on being stuck, and how to get started on your weight loss journey. (My shower is my inspiration zone… it’s where I seem to get my best ideas, and it’s where I got the name “Shrinking Thinking” for this programme !)
I was thinking about some of the people I spoke to about Shrinking Thinking last week, about how they all felt stuck, and how they have struggled to take action to do something about their weight. They’ve all been unhappy with their weight for such a long time, but they don’t know what to do to sort it out. Except they do know. They really DO know what to do, but they’re just not doing it. Why is that? Usually it’s fear. Fear of what’s involved, fear of taking control, fear of feeling hungry, fear of taking action, fear of it not working, as well as all of the “what if” questions. What if I don’t like it? What if I have to share my story, what if it doesn’t work, what if it does work, what will people think of me? And so on, and on, and on….. it’s a never ending list of fears and questions, which keep people STUCK, doing nothing. And you know what happens when you do nothing? Right! Nothing happens. You stay the same, you stay stuck.
I was comparing this to my journey of taking Shrinking Thinking from being a “live” programme taught in Edinburgh to an on-line based programme. Something I’ve wanted to do for ever – or so it felt. I had all of these fears and “what if’s” holding me back for such a long time… until I found myself nearly 2 years on, still talking about an on-line programme! So what changed for me? I had enough! I had enough of talking about it, thinking about it, worrying about it, I had enough of not doing it. I knew that if I did nothing, it would never happen. I had to change something to allow change to happen. So I just went and took the first step & got started! Then I broke the whole concept down into smaller manageable chunks, made an action plan and took baby steps towards my goal, and completed each step one at a time. Has it been easy? Yes, and no! It was easy to get started, difficult in the middle but you know what? Our first online programme starts next week! It’s amazing what you can achieve when you just get started!!
The thing is, when we allow the fear to control us, we make excuses to ourselves about why we’re not taking action now… We’ll say things like “It’s the summer time, it’s not a good time to start losing weight.” “I’ll start when the kids go back to school.” “I’ll wait until I feel a bit more confident”. “I’ll lose a bit of weight myself first, then I’ll join a programme”. Do you recognise yourself here? If you’re really honest with yourself, when you say these things, do you really mean them? Will you actually start when the kids go back to school, or are you just kidding yourself? Are you stuck in “excusitis”? Maybe, just maybe, you’ll take action when – the cows come home, or the pigs fly or the moon is blue….??!
Do you know what? For something to change, you have to change something. How long have you been saying to yourself, I’ll lose weight soon? Be honest! It’s too long, right? I know, and you know that you’ve been feeling rubbish about yourself and your weight for far too long, haven’t you? Well, the rub is, if you want to lose weight, or get your weight under better control, you’re going to have to do something different this time! If you don’t believe me, think about this…. imagine yourself, 5 years ahead of now, not changing anything, still eating what you usually eat and doing what you usually do. So what do you weigh in 5 years time? What other problems do you have as a result of your weight? Are there other health complications? Is movement easy? Does your weight restrict the things you want to do with your family? How are you feeling about yourself? What kinds of clothes do you wear? Do you go out and enjoy yourself much?
Ok, let’s change the picture. How about this: imagine yourself 5 years from now, having completed the Shrinking Thinking programme, sorted out your eating issues, got your emotional eating & thinking under control & got your weight sorted. How do you feel? What do you eat now? What clothes do you wear? What activities do you enjoy? What’s your family life like? Are your holidays any different now?
How different is this picture than the first? How much better did it feel? Yet the only thing we’ve done is imagine having sorted out your eating issues. Can you imagine how much better will it feel when you’ve ACTUALLY sorted it out?
So, are you going to take action & commit to getting this sorted right now? Are you ready to take the first step? And before you allow yourself to start on with the excuses again, remember… it’s never convenient to get started. You’ll never feel ready to get started. There will always be something else that you allow to take priority – until you’re ready to make YOURSELF the priority!
The first step is always the hardest. But you know what? In the words of Nike, “Just do it”, do it now! You don’t need to know how you’re going to get your weight sorted. (That’s our job anyway!) Just take that first step, and we’ll work out the rest along the way together. So let’s start today. Pick up the phone, give me a call, let’s have a chat about getting you started on the Shrinking Thinking programme. Even better, click “here” and just book it now!